MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS
I AM NEVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR MY MOTHER
OR
MY MOTHER AND I ARE BEST FRIENDS!
WHICH ARE YOU?
THE RELATIONSHIP A GIRL HAS WITH HER MOTHER IS AN INSIGHT INTO ALL OF HER RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW SHE APPROACHES LIFE.
I’VE DONE RESEARCH THROUGH THE YEARS AND I FOUND THAT THE A-TYPE OVER ACHIEVERS FALL FOR THE MOST PART INTO ONE CAMP AND THE MORE LAIDBACK TRADITIONALISTS INTO THE OTHER.
THERE ARE TWO CAMPS:
1. I AM NEVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR MY MOTHER; THEREFORE, I AM CONSTANTLY TRYING TO PROVE MYSELF TO HER IN ORDER TO GET HER APPROVAL!! YES, THAT’S TYPE-A
OR…
2. MY MOTHER AND I ARE BEST FRIENDS. I TELL HER EVERYTHING AND WE ARE AS CLOSE AS YOU CAN GET. YES – THE MORE LAID BACK TRADITIONALIST.
MANY CELEBRITIES ARE SEEKING APPROVAL AND RECOGNITION FROM FANS, AND QUITE OFTEN – ESPECIALLY WITH THE FEMALE CELEB – EVEN IF SHE IS CLOSE WITH HER MOTHER, THERE MAY BE SOME ASPECT OF IT WHERE SHE WANTS TO PLEASE HER MOTHER ON A GRAND SCALE.
WE HAVE READ ABOUT CONTENTIOUS RELATIONSHIPS CELEB DAUGHTERS HAVE WITH THEIR MOTHERS, OR MOTHERS WHO ARE OVERBEARING AND HAVE INCREDIBLE INFLUENCE ON THE SUCCESS OF THE DAUGHTER.
WOMEN YOU KNOW WHO STRUGGLE WITH THEIR MOTHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP FIND A WAY TO ACHIEVE RECOGNITION AND ACCOLADES AND CAN BE QUITE SUCCESSFUL AND IT TURNS OUT TO BE QUITE EMPOWERING. I AM ONE OF THOSE DAUGHTERS WHO MIGHT HAVE UNSUCCESSFULLY SOUGHT MY MOTHER’S APPROVAL.
I CONTINUE TO ASK WOMEN YOUNG AND MATURE ALIKE WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL EXACTLY WHAT THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS AND HAS BEEN WITH THEIR MOTHER. THERE IS DEFINITELY A CONNECTION.
THE MOTHER-DAUGHTER BOND THAT IS A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP IS THE ONE THAT SUPPORTS THE TRADITIONALIST LIFESTYLE. WHAT CAN BE BETTER THAN HAVING YOUR MOTHER BY YOUR SIDE NOT ONLY THROUGH LIFE’S TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS, BUT ALSO ITS CELEBRATIONS. THROUGH THE WEDDING, THE BIRTHS, AND SO ON, THE SUPPORT SYSTEM THE MOTHERS PROVIDE IS COMFORTING AND EMPOWERING.
WHO ARE YOU? WHAT IS THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOTHER?
IN EITHER CASE, ISN’T IT ALL ABOUT OUR DESTINY? I BELIEVE WE CHOOSE OUR PARENTS FOR THE LIFETIME WE ARE MEANT TO EXPERIENCE.
SO ALL MOMS ARE THE MOMS WE ARE DESTINED TO HAVE. WE ARE USING OUR MOTHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP TO BECOME THE WOMEN WE ARE TODAY!
ANYWAY I THINK SO!!
FEEDBACK PLEASE!!
We do choose our parents and usually end up being like one of them, so we can’t blame them for any problems we incur in our lifetime. Being close with your daughter is such a blessing and gift . I thank god everyday for mine!
I agree, with all of your thoughts. My mother and I have a complicated relationship. I have always been expected to succeed in school and in employment, always wanting approval from my father and my mother. Growing up with a father, in law enforcement and a mother who was a ballet dancer and teacher, my upbringing was strict. But the need for approval from both my parents has always been paramount, but I felt like my mom was subservient to my dad and I wanted to be respected. So as a type A person I enjoyed competing with men for a job, but my mom still thinks I need a man. Although I have been married and divorced twice she still thinks I need a man to take care of me. I am 65 so I came into my own when the Vietnam War was going on along with Women’s Liberation and the sexual revolution. I was introduced to your clothes by my ex sister in law Suzi Gilder Hayes,when she was modeling for Ford, first a perfect black bikini and then a huge belt and sweatshirt dress, back in 1983. I love your clothes and your message.
Hey Norma!
I am the “my mother is my best friend” type. Having her by my side has truly been a blessing. We have stood together through life’s tests, trials, and tribulations and have truly been strengthened in our relationship. I have a greater respect for my mom now more than ever! I now have a daughter and we are all standing strong together! God is faithful. Have a wonderful Jesus filled day!
Rissa Bling & Ma’Bling
I was subjected to my mothers’ unresolved pain and brutality from birth. I took on the false belief that I was un-lovable and unworthy of having a voice because of this. I have allowed others thru out my life, to dump their unresolved pain right in my lap. It has kept the little girl inside in a state of fear, If she does not feel I have her back in all situations in my adult life then there is no difference in her mind, between me and my mother. These last 15 years have been dedicated to healing the split between the little girl I left alone in the hellhole she was subjected to as a child, and bringing her back to the adult me and the truth of who she is. A lovable and deserving person.
This is my mother, daughter story.
Melissa Lee
I have long believed that we choose the parents we need for our life destiny. I hated my Mother for over 40 years. At 45 all I hated. I had become. 45 years of a hate focus to create that which I hated. Life is an amazing journey. My only hope is my daughter will come to release her hate of me before she is 45.
My daughter is my best friend and we both love to shop and wear your clothes!!!